Living 'At Cause'
16 December 07 I was having a discussion with an NLP colleague over coffee the other day when an incident came up which had caused him some pain in the recent past. He was reminiscing about how a relationship had ended and about the accompanying dramas. He was feeling pretty low about it and was at total effect for his life. I reminded him, that he was at choice in the matter and he at any moment could chose something else. After some time, he finally began to see, how he actually created the circumstances in which he found himself. We went on to talk more about how he could move himself from the 'blame game' he was playing with himself, (we do that don't we?) to the other side of the equation and live his life 'at cause'. Now my friend, is trained in NLP, and was clearly able to begin to utilise techniques as I coached him to let go of his position of where he was 'at effect' to begin to change to live his life 'at cause' in this area.Having thought about the conversation that day, I thought I would write a brief article about the choices we make and living our life 'at cause'.
Have you ever wondered just how successful people are
successful? You will have noticed that there are some people who just live
their life as if they appear as though they are 'in the flow all the time. And yet, you will also have
noticed there are other people for whom nothing goes right in their lives. They
never stop telling you about it either! A good question to ask would be, “what’s
the difference between them?” All of us
at one time or another, have experienced the disappointments that life can
bring. If you haven't, then your either deluded or dead. It’s common to all of us having a human experience. Even any ghosts reading this will agree when they remember. What is not common, is how
some people are able to create the life they want despite the setbacks, disappointments, disasters they have experienced whilst
others, just seem to stay in the same stuck place. And worse, create more of the same. Why?
One of the reasons people seek out an NLP Life Coach, is because
they aren’t getting the results they want in their life. Whilst they know they
aren’t and are dissatisfied, they also don’t
quite know how to produce the results they want. When things go wrong, how
often have you heard people blame something else besides themselves? Often. Blaming others, or events, or causes outside
oneself is very dis empowering. And I promise you, there is nothing to learn when you do that!
Now for some of you reading this, you may wonder how
circumstances that you have experienced can be anything else than someone/
thing fault, especially if you have suffered at some one else's hand. One thing to make clear is, that there is no ‘fault’ in this
discussion. Nor is there any implication of ‘deserving it’ when things go badly
in your life. Rather, it’s about you
taking back your power and living your life 'At Cause'. To blame or attribute cause outside yourself
for the experiences you have had in your life, which may have caused you pain,
is to say that you are powerless over the events in your life. You can hold onto that position if you want to, and some people will do that! They will argue for their position right into the grave. Or, you can consider there might be another more empowering way of being.
So,now that you are considering that, what does it mean to live your life ‘ at cause’? It means, that you begin to accept that for everything that happens to you, you have a choice and you have created. When you begin to realize this, it in fact, is very empowering. It means, if you are at cause for your life, you can create anything in your life. The total of all your choices, both conscious and unconscious, lead you to this very moment. The blame game you play ends. You realize you are the creator of your life and at any moment you are at choice.
Living your life ‘at cause’ requires a mental shift. Seeking a Life Coach trained in NLP and experience being coached, will rapidly create change and empowerment for you. Living your life ‘at cause’ IS empowerment. And being empowered, you will get into the flow of life and create the life you love.
I would suggest you just go for it! Live your life 'at cause' and if you are wanting to really get onto the 'cause' side of your life, then consider taking an NLP Empowerment Breakthrough session. Who knows what you might get out of life if you do?