The Fourth Pillar of NLP
28 July 09
Annie Burns
The Fourth Pillar of NLP - Rapport
So the first three pillars being outcome, sensory acuity and behavioral flexibility allow you to achieve pretty much whatever you want. That is - and here is the biggie - people are involved. Then, you may need their co operation and for that you need to be in relationship i.e 'relating' and the foundation for that is based on mutual trust respect and understanding. So what is the secret?
The secret of establishing and maintaining relationships is the fourth pillar of NLP which is : Rapport.
Think of it this way, rapport is the thing you feel when you meet someone for the first time and instinctively feel you known them forever. Most of the time, it happens so naturally and instinctively and totally out of your awareness. You can 'hear' rapport when you hear people say 'you are on my wavelength', 'I feel I knew you in a past life', 'we hit it off straight away' and the like.
But NLP considers rapport to he a skill that can be enhanced and developed and you can learn this skill in detail in one of our NLP Practitioner Trainings. If you are interested in taking a training then just go
here. It involves listening to the particular language they use, body posture amongst other skill set.
There is however, another dimension to rapport that is not so obvious, and this is the rapport we have with ourselves. In particular the rapport we have with our conscious and unconscious minds. Some times and I bet you can identify with this, you feel torn with part of you wanting to do one thing and another wanting something completely different. The greater rapport you have with yourself the more inner peace you will experience.
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