Empowered Mind
Limiting Decisions
22 November 07 Did you ever make a limiting decision? I know I have, and lots of them! Maybe, in the past you decided that it wasn't OK for you to feel good about yourself, or you decided that it wasn't OK for you to be brilliant, or not OK for you to express yourself clearly, or not OK for you to be able to have good relationships, or to be wealthy. Has that rung a bell? I bet it has.At some time in the past, something happened where you made a decision about an event, that would have caused you some distress. Our limiting decisions are often formed when we are very young, and then they largely become unconscious, to the point that the become an unconscious filter for our choices we make in life. For example, if you have a limiting decision called ' I cant have a good relationship', or how about " I can't commit in a relationship", then what happens is, your mind will filter all eligible partners out and only view those who aren't right for you. And, you will even go to the extent of sabotaging yourself due to your unconscious limiting decision and then wonder what went wrong.
Here is a common one, "I don't deserve to be rich", or 'having money is bad', "money doesn't grow on trees", or in the case of a recent coaching client I had whose limiting decision revolved around an incident that happened when she was 9. She saw her parents lose their house. When the Real Estate agents came around to put the house on the market, her mother was distraught. At that moment, she decided, that " I can never own a house because I will lose it anyway". It doesn't have to make sense, or even be true. It's what is held AS true for you that creates your perception.
These Limiting Decisions may see you losing money when you gain it, poorly manage the money you have or missing opportunities as they come to you. We live in a prosperous and abundant universe, and never before in human history are we in a position to embrace wealth for ourselves.
What limiting decisions do, is to limit who we are and what we want for our life. They cause us pain and limit us from being the magnificent person you know you are. How do you know you have limiting decisions? When ever you hear yourself say, "I cant..", "I don't..." and the like, is a strong indicator that you have limiting decision around what you are thinking about. If you also don't have the outcomes you set for yourself, you can bet there is a limiting decision is behind it. Take for example failed relationships, having the same experience over again. Could there be a limiting decision driving your experience? You bet there could!
Limiting decisions aren't permanent, they are just that, a decision. That being so, its not always easy to identify what they are for yourself. So, the question is, when are you going to chose something different than that which you had decided? I am not going to suggest that it now is a good time. I wouldn't suggest that to you because you can chose that for yourself, can you not?
I would suggest that there might be some decisions about you and your ability that are keeping you from having what you want in your life. Think of all the limiting decisions you've made in your life. How many were recently? Even last week. So what it is that holds you back? What kind of decision do you want to let go of?
How to let go of limiting decisions? Often, people try to let go with the conscious mind, and those results are themselves limited. The thing about those decisions you want to now let go of, is that you must let them go at the unconscious mind. Why? Because the root cause of the limiting decision is unconscious to you, and must be released in the unconscious mind. And you may or may not know, but you can you know, let go of those decisions at the unconscious mind.
If, after reading this article, you are beginning to realise your Limiting Decisions, thats a good thing! Awareness will foster change.
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Limiting Decisions can be easily let go of, and therapy can be conducted over the phone in the comfort of your own home. After your Free consultation, I will review with you how long the Time Line Therapy™ consultation will take.